Change. Love it or hate it, it’s going to happen. So how about embracing change? How about harnessing change to get what you want in life? How does it sound to be one of those people thrive on change and re-invention? So how can you become one of those people who embraces change and transformation?
The real truth about handling change is to stay focused on making progress. If you can make progress on a regular basis, then you are thriving. Nonetheless, when you are lost, stuck or coping with grief, it can be hard to understand what steps to take to move forward. I’m going to give you 5 mandates to concentrate on, so you can start making progress, today.
1. Create a Vision
for what it is that you truly want. This isn’t new age stuff; it’s about having focus and being strategic – just like in business. If you’re unemployed, what does your ideal career look like? If you don’t like where you are, where do you want to be?
The vision should excite you. Be specific, because it has to be compelling. It has to pull you. It should not be something that you have to push yourself toward. Make it emotional. Envision this goal, see how it makes you feel, and then dive in.
2. Make the Resolution
Now is the time to declare: “I am going to take control.” In doing so you will cut off any other possibilities. If this is what you want, then commit! Make the resolution that you will find a way to make things work and mentally put yourself on the path towards achieving the vision that you just set forth.
3. Clarify Your Reasons
You have a vision, and you have committed to reaching this goal, now revel in your reasons — the purpose of wanting to make this change and to achieve these results. This is one of the most important components to making progress because, without it, you have no emotional connection. And you are going to face challenges and obstacles along the way, but these reasons will help push you through and propel you along preventing fear or negative self-talk from taking over. Find that meaning in achieving your goal.
Your reasons can be framed in a positive or a negative manner — “If I don’t do this, it will cost me…” or “If I do this, then this is what I will gain.” Your reasons need to resound deeply for you. They are not superficial but reflect a personal and powerful purpose that carries an emotional connection for you. Find the meaning behind achieving your goal, and allow that to help you get on target when things get rough.
4. Make Your Vision a Part of Your Every Day
Think back to a time when you wanted something more than anything; something you were hungry for, something that you were intensely keen on having, and your likely thought about it every single day. You just didn’t know how to make it happen. Then rather miraculously, the right situation or the right people appeared, and everything just kind of came together for you. Divine intervention? Not really. There’s a part of your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) † and it determines what you notice in the world. It works like this; when you set a goal, become extraordinarily clear on it, and have strong reasons behind your intent, you trigger the reticular activating system. Your brain then becomes attuned to noticing anything that comes into your world that could help you move forward.
Do yourself a favour; invest fully in your vision. Make it a key part of your focus every single day. Then start to take notice of what pops up in your life. The opportunities, insights and occasions that arise may just surprise you.
5. Raising your Standards
How long ago did you establish rules on what you could or couldn’t do? Or whom you could or couldn’t be? Take a look at any area in your life where you have set a limitation and ask yourself why you decided to accept that. For most of us, it’s these self-imposed limitations that prevent us from making any real progress. We have convinced ourselves that the status quo is what we deserve, and we, in turn, live our lives to that standard — wherever people have set their limit and line-of-sight, they live to that standard.
If you want to create a change for yourself or to migrate through a change at work or in life, then you have to raise your standards. You have to let go of the limiting beliefs that keep you locked into inertia and the status quo. Make progress a “must” for you and refuse to settle for anything less than what is possible. This will take practice, and is a mindset shift, but the more you adopt the thoughts, behaviours and practices of possibility, the more powerful your brain will become at finding ways to take you there.
Get started today
If you feel that change is a massive challenge, then break it down into bite-sized steps. Just keep making progress. One change will beget another change. So do something different, right now to start a new routine of progress. I promise you, learning to embrace change and then making change work for you, is one of the biggest gifts you could give yourself this holiday season.
Heather Mae Cavanagh is a communications and change management professional. An accomplished 25+ year track record spans advertising, finance, and marketing industries. She has parlayed her vast personal and professional experience into a successful coaching business, now focused on mentoring other high-achievers to shift their mindset and perspective to find their balance, uncover their resilience, improve their networking and ability to make critical connections — allowing them to thrive! Heather has a Masters in Leadership Studies, specialized in coaching & change management. She is also a trained Success Ambassador with Power to Thrive and Wealthy Woman Warrior. You can take a sneak peek