There are three real reasons that your emotions could be to blame for your lack of progress. Of interest, learning how to stop your emotions so you succeed, could also save your life.
It’s Mental Health Day today and February is also known as ‘heart month’. Many are unaware of how your health, your progress and your emotions all correlate, but getting control of your emotions is what will help you succeed in managing your mindset, business success and your health.
Reason #1 That Your Emotions Could Be To Blame & How To Stop
According to Heart and Stroke Foundation, most Canadian women have at least one risk factor for heart disease and stroke. What most women aren’t aware of is that your thoughts and emotions play into your heart health every day. Translation – there are tremendous benefits to learning how to control your emotions and your thinking for your progress and your health.
The first reason your emotions could be tanking your progress and your heart and mind health is that the brain is actually wired for the negative. Consider it – why has there never been a “happy-news-stories only” reporting station? It won’t sell. Terrible but it’s true. Your brain is programmed to respond to a well-documented bias called the negativity bias. The negativity bias suggests that negative events are favoured over positive ones. While learning of this, some will give themselves a hall pass. Believing that if the brain is wired for the negative change is unlikely. This simply isn’t true – the reality is that you can train your brain to want the positive, you’ve just never learned to do so. When your brain learns to crave a positive stimulus, your hormones and your daily experiences change increasing your health and progress.
How to stop negative thoughts and emotions from taking over?
This is not a secret trick – it’s a simple conscious choice that requires awareness first. Positive thinking and emotions involve self-discipline and awareness. To help you cultivate these, start by noticing your energy level in correlation to your thinking. If you’re feeling tired mid-day, what have you been thinking about? What are you believing? Are you stuck in problems, drama and trauma? If so stop. Get up. Walk to the other side of the desk or room and shift your focus to choose the solution rather than the struggle. The more often you practice this, the easier this becomes. In fact, by repeating this process you’ll start to train your brain to interrupt the negative and search for the positive.
Reason #2 That Your Emotions Could Be To Blame & How To Stop
Old habits die hard. When was the last time you heard a juicy bit of gossip? So-and-so-is-pregnant with someone else’s baby – your brain just lit up a bit. Or what about, so-and-so left her husband for another woman? There’s a reason dramas are popular and sweep us in. The habit of emotionally responding to the drama is something you’ve learned since childhood. In fact, your cry is what got your caregiver’s attention.
Not only does it make your heart skip a beat while watching Game of Thrones, Scandal, or Black Mirror, it’s also the emotional charge that you receive and crave. When you experience drama, you’re reinforcing a neural pathway. A habit of emotional charge and in so doing, your brain rewards you with a surge of adrenaline. Craving emotional drama will not only pull you backward, begging your attention to focus on the problems and challenges, it also makes you feel good in the moment. Long-term though and physiologically, it’s also going to increase your stress hormones. It will spark a twizzle of energy depleting, life-crushing, emotional soaring responses keeping you stuck.
How to stop the drama seeking habit?
The next time you hear gossip, look for a positive spin on the outcome. If so and so left her husband for another woman – it means she’s finally exploring what makes her happy and all involved get to move on. If so-and-so is pregnant – “Yay! A new baby is coming into this world!”. Become a master of removing yourself from the emotional drama. When you’re watching t.v. shows that set this off for you, once you’re finished watching counteract them by thinking of 3 positive things that happened over your day. Doing so will reset your physiology and emotional well-being, helping balance your heart and emotional health.
Reason #3 That Your Emotions Could Be To Blame & How To Stop
You’re environment is consistently providing you with ammunition. It’s easy to look around you each day and see the minefield of emotional bombs going off. What most are unaware of is that negativity only enters your thoughts and your emotional reactions if you allow it to. Deadlines, taxes, children’s outbursts can all be within your emotional control if you learn how to become self-motivated in responding rather than reacting.
How to stop your environment from taking you out?
The next time your environment feels out of control, stop and pause. Before you do anything: close your eyes, take a breath and acknowledge the environment. Then choose how you’re going to respond. Do you lose your mind and scream out loud or do you simply breathe out and focus on what you can control? Being self-motivated will help you accomplish so many things in your life and be successful at work and in your relationships. Controlling your emotions and your thoughts if you practice it can become easier than you might think. It might also save your life.
CEO & Founder of Wealthy Woman Warrior™
Andrea created her proprietary mindset training, Power To Thrive™ over 15 years ago. We're now in a time where one's environment is constantly changing and pushing people mentally to their limits - if you don't have tools in place to help you navigate disruption, you simply need to get it. Invest in your mind and your success will follow.
Andrea Carter is on a mission to empower 1 million women to reach their economic potential by 2025. She believes that through collaboration and these 5 pillars women can rise to relevance.