Holidays are supposed to be a time of joy. The reality is, for many it is a time of stress. Family gatherings, traditions, expectations, gift giving, difficult conversations – the list is endless.
If you are feeling like you can’t get it all done or this holiday season is already not going the way you thought it would know you are not alone. Whether it is all too much, or too little, getting curious this holiday will help you get what you want. Bonus – You might even enjoy yourself!
3 Curiosity Hacks to Increase Holiday Happiness:
1. Get Clear On What You Want:
Feeling like you are being pulled in a million directions? It is easy to get caught up in the meals, the shopping, the baking, and the parties. In the chaos of it all, we lose sight of what the holidays are all about.
Understanding what you want this holiday and how it looks for you is the first essential step. This isn’t how you think your holidays should look, how you have been raised your holidays should look, or even what Instagram is dictating it should look and taste like. Be honest and ask yourself:
- What do I want this holiday?
- What do I need to help me achieve it?
Having an understanding of what your wants and needs are is the first step in achieving them. It is how you feel in alignment. Without this, there will always be chaos.
2. Be Open to New Experiences:
Holidays and traditions go hand in hand. People traditionally eat the same meals, see the same family, go to the same parties, repeat. We continue to do things because that is the way we have always done them. Until now.
Looking at what you want this holiday, where do your traditions fit in? For example, what traditions do you want to be honouring this holiday versus what traditions are you honouring because you always have? Who do you want to spend your time with versus who do you traditionally spend your time with? What do you want to eat this holiday versus what do you traditionally eat every holiday?
There is nothing wrong with traditions as long as the people honouring them actually want to be honouring them. Otherwise, they feel like chores. Get curious to gain a deeper understanding of what traditions actually work for you and are enjoyable to you. Give yourself permission to try something new.
3. Practice Boundaries:
In the hustle and bustle of producing the “perfect holiday”, our own personal self-care can fly out the window. Sound familiar? We do things we don’t want to do, say YES when we want to say NO. This leaves us feeling more exhausted and overwhelmed needing a holiday from our holidays.
When we feel over-extended, over-whelmed and stressed we operate from a place of reaction. This releases stress hormone cortisol, leads to conflictual conversations and resentment. Setting boundaries allow you to draw a line in the sand of what is permissible and what is not. This means you can clearly and respectfully say YES to what you want and NO to what you don’t want. Boundaries will help you stay in a place of response rather than react. Clear boundaries will also help you achieve what you want.
Co-Founder of The Institute of Curiosity, Co-Author of The Power of Curiosity, Communication Ambassador for Wealthy Woman Warrior™
We specialize in high-quality conversations that build high-quality relationships. That means we help people STOP reacting (to people, emotions, events) and learn to start RESPONDING to engage and inspire others, especially in emotional or high stakes situations.