As we begin a new year, it is the perfect time to reflect on your past year – what worked, what didn’t and what you want for you and your family in 2018.

A new year brings a fresh slate.  An opportunity to try a new approach or refine old ones.  Reflection is an important part of self-awareness, supports critical thinking and is how we learn.  Reflection allows us to have a deeper understanding of ourselves and how we show up in our lives. Reflecting on your past year will help you be intentional about letting go of the behaviours that hold you back.  Reflecting will also help you be intentional about how you want to be in the new year.

Curiosity is the driving force of reflection.  It is how we cultivate self-awareness, which can be hard in our ‘me-centric’ worlds. Be kind to yourself as you go through this process.  There are no right or wrong answers.  Allow yourself to be honest and truthful.  Humans are self-directed learners. You can’t change or improve anything if you don’t first understand it.

Here are 6 reflective questions to ask yourself and your family as you map out 2018.

  1. How happy were you with how you showed up for yourself & your family in 2017?
  2. How do you want to show up for yourself & your family in 2018?
  3. What is one thing you are most proud of in 2017?
  4. What are you most grateful for in 2017?
  5. In 2018, what are you looking forward to?
  6. What is one thing you would like to improve or focus on in 2018?

 

Your reflective process will help you outline specific goals to work towards this year.

Share this reflective practice with your family.  Hearing what your family is proud of and grateful for allows you to better understand them.  Sharing what you want to change or improve upon allows you to all be on the same page and hold each other accountable.

Set some rules as you share your reflections.  Agree to listen to each other with open minds and open hearts.  Quiet the inner thoughts and ideas so you can keep the focus on the speaker.  Be mindful not to judge their thoughts, ideas or experiences.  Be open to hearing what their truth is.  It might be different from yours, which is OK.  The goal is to understand what it is for others.

If you want to take it one step further, incorporate your reflective process each night at the dinner table.  Ask these 3 questions each night to learn more about your family and dig deeper than “how was your day?”.

What are you most proud of today?

What are you grateful for today?

For tomorrow, what are you looking most forward to?

It is amazing what you can learn.

Kirsten Siggins

Kirsten Siggins

Co-Founder of The Institute of Curiosity, Co-Author of The Power of Curiosity, Communication Ambassador for Wealthy Woman Warrior™

We specialize in high-quality conversations that build high-quality relationships. That means we help people STOP reacting (to people, emotions, events) and learn to start RESPONDING to engage and inspire others, especially in emotional or high stakes situations.

 

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