Research shows only 8% of people who make resolutions actually keep them.
And yet you want to live your life differently, change things up and you can be one of the 8% and make a resolution work.
Every year close to 50% of the population make New Year’s Resolutions and yet most don’t keep them. When we stumble and fail, we feel disappointed for a day and then life goes on. We forget about the change we wanted to bring into our lives. Struggle in the same ruts doing the same things we don’t want and life goes on until the next December and we start all over again next year. We all vow ‘this year will be different. I will do better!
Many of us want to make changes to our lives. We aren’t really happy with how we show up, live our life and connect in our relationships. Or maybe we know we can be a better, more effective leader. Maybe we want to be more mindful and present in our life. Maybe we want to focus on being a more effective leader. Perhaps we want to learn how to use our influence in a way that will create better outcomes.
Here are 6 steps to take to create real sustainable Change.
1. Define One Way You Want to Change Your Life in 2018.
Yes, just one want. One of the challenges is identifying just one way you want to change will be easier for you to maintain it to build sustainable change.
2. Define Success:
Figure out how you will know when you have achieved this ‘want’. Identify what your life will look like, what will be different. You may want to write some notes around this in a journal, paint a picture, create a collage. The more detail you can create, the better. You can create baby steps you can complete to continue to move forward towards success.
3. Measure Success:
You need to know how to measure success so you will know when you have achieved it. It could be something as simple as showing in a curious way at so many meetings a week. It may involve asking others for feedback so they can help you know if you are achieving the success you want.
4. Identify Challenges:
We all know it is difficult to continue with New Year’s Resolution. Only 8% are successful in maintaining them, even short term. Identify what you think your challenges will be, what could stop you from making a permanent change.
5. Get Curious:
Explore how these challenges could sabotage your success, your ability to create real change. Discover strategies that will work for you to maintain your focus.
6. Be Kind to Yourself:
There will be hiccups along the way. Accept these and move on, regaining your focus so you can create that sustainable change you want in your life.
Co-Founder of The Institute Of Curiosity
Kathy Taberner is a retired occupational therapist, Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with a MA in leadership and training. With her daughter, she is a co-founder of the Institute of Curiosity and co-author of the ‘Power of Curiosity’. She is committed to supporting women to strive to become the dynamic and successful leaders they want to be. Her research project for her Masters explored the leadership styles and emotional intelligence of senior female leaders in BC.
She and her husband of many years, share their time between the Okanagan and Vancouver.