Well, now that I have your attention…
MONEY IS THE LAST FRONTIER.
That bastion of silence that shall not be broken. Those old stalwarts of no go conversation – religion and politics, well they are fair game now! Heck, more people talk about their sex lives than about their money. And thus the title of this blog!
We want you to break down, smash, destroy and obliterate that wall of silence.
If by chance, you are talking about money, it typically revolves around that kick ass interest rate you got on your mortgage. Or the rate of return you got on that investment that is out of this world. Or the deal you got at Winners last week.
WHY ARE WE COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT THESE THINGS BUT NOT WHAT REALLY AFFECTS OUR DAY TO DAY FINANCIAL HEALTH?
The real things like our line of credit debt, how can we save more, how much we get paid for our job. The more transparent we are about the real things, the better we will feel. The more we will realize that we are not alone with the financial issues we are facing, the more we can realize that we are in this together.
WHY SHOULD WE TALK ABOUT MONEY?
Simple, it will improve your mental health. It will help you realize that the perfect facades against which you are measuring yourself aren’t real. It will reinforce that you are normal and you are not alone in your quest for financial health. It is a permission slip allowing you to take all the energy spent to keep up the endless semblance of a perfect life and redeploy it towards making positive financial life changes – and this is liberating!
SO HOW DO WE GET COMFORTABLE TO CLIMB UP THAT LAST HILL AND BEGIN THE CONVERSATION?
It is not always easy, that is for sure. I suggest that you start slowly – interview a few independent financial advisors who are used to talking in a holistic manner about all parts of your finances. This fresh start can be refreshing if you do not have that open relationship with your current advisor. According to the women we work with, they find it hard to “open their kimono”, but they feel so much better once they have done it. Then work your way to your best friend. I believe what you will find is that she will be relieved to have someone to talk to without trying to pretend that everything is perfect. The hardest part is the first time you bring it up. No doubt you will feel some butterflies and worry about being judged. This is natural and normal, but totally worth it. And like anything else, the more you talk about your money situation, the easier it will become. So, whether your financial picture is good, bad or ugly, get talking!
Leave me a comment below and let’s start here!
Financial Expert, Innovator, Author, Business Owner, Lover of Fun, Wealth Ambassador
With the audacious goal of changing a million lives through finances, Wendy saw a gap in the market and developed the One Number Solution™, a unique system which focuses on planning with behavioral finance tenants in mind. People need to see how to have a financially successful today while planning for tomorrow.